Why I'm done chasing...

A therapist friend gave me the following advice:

There's an arrogance and a righteousness that comes from the best place in us... the place that wants to save our patients and our lovers and our friends.

There will be all of those that give chase and they want us to follow. They may want us to save, but true partnership, friendship, or good therapy isnt about saving - it's about waiting for the person to stop running. It's waiting for them to come to us and ask for help, instead of forcing the chase.

The best of us are brave enough to wait it out.

She has a phone, concerned friends, and a very loving concerned you. She knows in her heart, without any question, that if she really needs you, you will always be there.

She isn't done running and she wants you and everyone else to chase. When she's ready, she'll stop. In the meantime, you cant save her. Just support her. She's gotten this far... she'll be ok. I promise.

I don't know if that makes sense and I agree it really sounds as though she's hurting and struggling right now, but you cant change that or help unless she allows you to. Right now she just wants to play. She needs to feel needed by scaring all of you.

You need to just trust that she has enough support in her life that if she chooses to see and reach out... she'll be brave enough to do that. You can't do it for her.

The Pursuit of Life

The American opposition toward citizen funded health care confuses me.

What boggles my mind most is that there have been two major issues determining the destination of our taxed dollars since the time our president took office:

1) Allocation of our funds for the bailout of private corporations.

2) Allocation of our funds for the potential care of our citizens.

Where were the screams of opposition when our tax dollars were handed to private entities?

Why are we choosing to fight against the second option? How have we become so brainwashed that we stand up for the preservation of a third party?

We are the people.

After all, the defense and prosperity of the self is what our capitalistic government is all about. Our government is not based on the health of corporations. The smoke and mirrors of private corporation only has power when we believe it's more important than we are for the health of our country.

Let's not forget, the government for which our troops fight is a government we control. There's no need to be afraid of the health services we provide ourselves, but there's much to fear in health services provided by entities we don't control.

When we wage war against a foreign country, we fight for the safety and health of our fellow citizens. A select few, rich and poor, defend our nation against foreign threat.The care of our nation is as important as the defense of our nation. It's a different battle in the same war.

Why are we battling the inalienable right to life? It's ours - front and center.

Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

We employ our fellow men and women to defend our right to life against factors abroad. Let us employ our fellow men and women to defend our right to life against factors within.

Let us all demand the inalienable right to life, completely.

We decide if we pay a premium for life. We don't directly pay a private company for the defense of our nation, nor should we pay a price, beyond what we tax, for the defense of ourselves.

Bottom Line:
We've yet to be overcome by a department of our government for which we openly supply weaponry at our expense.

How (and why) could we imagine a threat from a department of our government for which we openly supply medicine?

A Federal Hospital Program may not be the correct course of action, but why don't we try? Who loses at the end of the day? Premium services will continue to be available to those of us who want it.

The worst case scenario... We fail at the effort to create a world in which our health is an inalienable right. - but we're Americans. We don't fail.

"Divide and conquer," They believed.

We almost let them win.