Why I'm done chasing...

A therapist friend gave me the following advice:

There's an arrogance and a righteousness that comes from the best place in us... the place that wants to save our patients and our lovers and our friends.

There will be all of those that give chase and they want us to follow. They may want us to save, but true partnership, friendship, or good therapy isnt about saving - it's about waiting for the person to stop running. It's waiting for them to come to us and ask for help, instead of forcing the chase.

The best of us are brave enough to wait it out.

She has a phone, concerned friends, and a very loving concerned you. She knows in her heart, without any question, that if she really needs you, you will always be there.

She isn't done running and she wants you and everyone else to chase. When she's ready, she'll stop. In the meantime, you cant save her. Just support her. She's gotten this far... she'll be ok. I promise.

I don't know if that makes sense and I agree it really sounds as though she's hurting and struggling right now, but you cant change that or help unless she allows you to. Right now she just wants to play. She needs to feel needed by scaring all of you.

You need to just trust that she has enough support in her life that if she chooses to see and reach out... she'll be brave enough to do that. You can't do it for her.